Easter’s 3 Messages of Hope for Hurting Parents

by | Mar 29, 2021 | what you can do

photo cred. Janet Plock

Easter is this Sunday. Holidays are hard when you’re the parent of a child who is causing you heartache. How old they are doesn’t matter. If they struggle with alcohol or drugs, are incarcerated, engage in self-injury or an eating disorder, have a problem with pornography, gambling or video-gaming, a mental health affliction or gender identity issue, everything changes.

On special days you hurt more…much more

Memories from when your child was young and innocent flood your mind.

You can’t help but remember your cute little girl all dressed up in her Easter clothes. Her beautiful smile would catch your breath. You can still see your precious four-year-old son looking adorable in his suit and tie. His impish smile could melt your heart.

What fun you had surprising them with baskets full of treats. Happy memories of Easter egg hunts now only bring tears to your eyes and a lump in your throat. Those days remind you of what you’ve lost. How could you forget?

We wonder if our children will ever like us again or want to spend time with us some day. Others would be satisfied just to find out they’re children are still alive.

You Never Know What Tomorrow Might Bring

Bittersweet holidays. The sweetness of the past alongside the bitterness of the present.

Is this your condition? Please hold on to Easter’s timeless messages of hope.

God often digs a well of joy with a spade of sorrow. (anonymous)

Easter’s 3 Messages of Hope

photo cred. Dena Yohe

  1. You never know what tomorrow might bring. In this moment you can’t see what God is doing, but He is working. You may have heard the statement: It’s Friday (Good Friday), but Sunday’s coming! (John 16:33; Matthew 28:1-7)
  2. He longs to comfort you with His presence and His love. His perfect Lamb, Jesus, suffered, bled, and died for you (and for your child) so that you could have the gift of eternal and abundant life (John 3:16; John 10:10; Romans 6:23). He gave His all so that you could experience all the blessings and goodness He has instore for you.
  3. He suffered so you don’t have to suffer alone. He is with you now and will always be with you (Matthew 28:20b; Psalm 23:4 and Isaiah 41:10).

I grew up going to church, singing the hymns of the Judeo-Christian faith. The words of an old one came to my mind as I wrote this message. They captured my heart’s prayer for you – and for your sons and daughters: “At The Cross” by Ralph Hudson. You can listen to different renditions on YouTube. Here’s one by the Gaither Vocal Band from 2012. And this is another jazzy version sung by TD Jakes recorded in 2020.

At The Cross (this is the chorus)

At the cross, at the cross

where I first saw the light,

and the burden of my heart rolled away.

It was there by faith I received my sight,

And now I am happy all the day.

“Only in the gospel of Christ can hurting people find such incredible hope.” ~ Randy Alcorn

Pray with me: O Father, I pray our prodigal loved ones will finally see the light of the gospel in the cross of Christ this Easter. Please give them understanding of the meaning for their lives so that the burden of their hearts will roll away. May ours will roll away too. The weight is crushing us. Help our sons and daughters find their own personal faith – faith to believe that you truly are the Son of God. And may they receive 20/20 spiritual vision so they can know the joy of the resurrection, both now and forevermore! This is the hope of our hearts this Easter. In the name of Jesus who gave His life for us and in the glory of His cross. Amen.

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