When God Makes Hurting Parents Wait

by | Dec 6, 2023 | what you can do | 2 comments

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Sick and tired of waiting for change, I wondered how long before for my daughter would be ready to quit drinking and making poor choices? When would she accept help? At 25 she had already been in 4 rehab programs and hopsitalized countless times for severe cutting and suicide attempts. How much more trauma and heartache would I have to endure before she came to her senses? Drained from constant worry, I opened my Bible. Turning to the story about Moses parting the sea I read:

Then Moses stretched out his hand over the sea, and all that night the Lord drove the sea back with a strong east wind and turned it into dry land . . . and when the Israelites saw the great power of the Lord displayed against the Egyptians, the people feared the Lord and put their trust in him . . . (Exodus 14:21-25, 31) NIV.

God spoke to my questioning heart.

Not Knowing God’s Plan

Moses also found himelf in a desperate situation. Not knowing God’s plan, he had to trust the mystery of His ways. While the Creator of the universe worked all night to divide the sea, Moses held up his arms – for endless hours. Reading further revealed that he eventually needed some help to hold them up and God provided helpers. But Moses still had to wait for the job to be finished so that the people could flee from their enemy. I’m sure the Hebrews were terrified. No one knew what would happen. Would the Lord rescue them or let them perish?

God could have parted the waters instantly, but He didn’t.

He let them wait. Why?

I don’t know, but two possible answers occurred to me:

  1. In the waiting, their faith grew stronger.
  2. In the end, God would get all the credit. No one else could part an ocean.

Is it plausible God wanted there to be no doubt they were saved by His great power?

There was nothing they could do to change the situation or rescue themselves. They had to have faith and trust Jehovah.

We, too, are powerless to change our situation or save our child.

We Too Must Wait

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We, too, must wait and see what God will do.

Here’s the question we must answer: Will we wait with faith-filled trust or with doubts and complaints?

Are you weary of holding up your arms, watching for a miracle? Have you wondered why God chooses to delay?

Dear friend, only He knows the answer.

When God makes you wait, He’s up to something.

Please hold on to your faith during seasons of delay. Keep trusting His love and care. He is the all-powerful, warrior King who fights for you and your child. He alone will do whatever it takes to accomplish His purposes in you and in them.

Let’s Pray: Our Rescuer, may today be the day our children see Your power at work in their lives. Please move in such a profound way that they cannot mistake it or explain it away as anything else. Strengthen our faith while we wait. Receive all the credit and glory by the way You part the waters in their lives. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

*** This was the content of an email I sent out recently. If you’d like encouraging messages like this in your inbox, you can sign up for my daily emails and choose the frequency you’d prefer. Sign up here on our website.

***And here is the link to a previous blog I wrote on waiting: 7 Tips for Parents When Waiting is Hard.


  1. Teresa

    150 Americans a day, one person every 4 minutes is dying of fentanyl overdose. We lost our daughter christmas eve. Since the beginning of the Oct 7 War when Hamas bombed Israel, the loss of isreali soldiers is 120.
    We are losing 150 of our citizens a day.

    • Tom and Dena Yohe

      It’a truly a terrible thing. We re so deeply sorry you lost your daughter. May God comfort you as you grieve.